Conflict and Disagreement happen all the time sometimes we see the result coming and sometimes we don’t. Without conflict and disagreement how do we find out what is hurtful how do we learn what others may not like?
The world is made up of many different colours of needs, wants, expectations, ways of being and thinking. So many types of ordering things for so many people is a miracle of juggling and rubbing shoulders with all kinds of people. So how has mankind got this far? I hear you asking.
Well my friend; it has taken to now, to achieve openness on a global scale. The need for fences, walls, boarders, caused by lack of mobility and knowledge of a greater world then the one that the individual knows, caused a form of isolation. This meant that people were able to build their mode of interaction with their locality based fellow man. Think about it; before the twentieth century travel to other groups of people was only afforded to a very few people. So there was a distinct lack of knowledge that there may be other ways to look at life and experiences, there may be other ways to order how you do things and how you set societies life goals for living harmoniously together. The majority of people stayed in the same area, same village and even the same street. So to mix all the colours of experience that are built out of conflict and disagreement these isolated societies built their own rules for living. These rules for living are now the sources of conflict and missunderstandings that become the buliding blocks for new experiences gained from discourse with other people, who are not of the same understanding, same social standards and do not hold the same expectation of life goals and so the circle turns.
As life has always ordered its self around the needs of the group. As the world opens up and people mix with other people who are of like minds but of another social ordered group conflict will occur. Beliefs, life rules to survive and understandings or how to look at something will cause questions, arguments, miss understandings and so disagreements and conflict. In the individuals at first and in the wider levels of society in the longer term until new ways of looking at things can be found. Once these new ways of looking at things to see that each individual is looking at exactly the same thing and that it is the semantics of the colours that are causing the conflict and disagreement. Once this has been understood new orders, new ideas, new ways of looking at things can be agreed upon. Unfortunately as this new order emerges rules are prescribed for this new way of seeing things. In the setting of the new rules one makes experiences valid, one gives a name and a legitimation to the idea and so leads the way to new conflict and disagreement that will follow as new ways and experiances enter the expaeriances of the individual. So the circle turns once more.
Some call this anarchy others call it the rise of the phoenix. I call it growth of the individual in the form of grace.
Ok what is grace?
Grace is a little girl who never washed her face.
She grew out of patience
Patience is the doorway to achievement.
As my father used to always say:-
Patience is a virtue,
Virtue is a grace
And grace is a little girl who never washed her face.
Become grace dear friend. Give honour and love to those who bring you conflict bless them know that they give you the new knowledge that you need to be able to look at their vision their semantics and then see where these meet your own. In this you can see that the path you both walk is the same in the same direction and with this new purpose grow.
Then you can stop the conflict so you can build a new understanding and then pass them on to the rest of your fellow humans. We grow out of the minority in knowledge and as that knowledge is assimilated it becomes a truth. This truth grows as it is passed from one to another in this way we become the majority. In this majority one must remember to let go of the dogma and the rules that no longer fit but take the best of what we know into the new assimilation without annihilating self or society.
I leave you with this thought my friends feel free to argue this is how we grow just drop the conflict.
Love and light
Demici.